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Oftentimes couples that are separating rarely agree on how to separate their lives. People who are separating and have children need to agree on the care and schedules of their children. Sometimes what a couple really needs is to sit face to face and talk about the issues and find the right solutions. Mediation can be a productive format by introducing a neutral party to structure the conversation. If parents can come to realize the importance of having both parents in the life of their child the road to a healthy future becomes clearer.
Divorces involving financial issues and disputes over child living arrangements are commonly very costly. These cases can take as long as two to three years to get through the courts. But when divorcing couples choose to go to mediation prior to bringing a court action, they can save both time and money. The time required to finalize a mediated divorce is often less than six months.
Mediation conserves time, emotional energy, and financial resources, and it enables spouses to move forward without having to recover from the destructive side effects experienced during court proceedings.
A separation high in conflict delays the emotional healing that will inevitably be experienced by each party.
The fear of the unknown and the need to deal with issues of parent-child relationships can be overwhelming. Mediation brings the issues of finances and childrearing out into the open, to be addressed and resolved through cooperation.
PUT YOUR CHILDREN FIRST One of the strongest reasons to mediate is to protect your children. It is difficult enough for children to adjust to the reality that the family that they trusted to continue is actually breaking apart. Children look to their parents for guidance and help in making sense of what is going on in their home.
Children with parents who treat each other with respect and who remain available to their children and other responsibilities, even during a divorce, are more likely to model such behavior and to perceive the world in a more positive light. Mediation allows couples to maintain their integrity and to continue to present themselves to their children as the kind of parents they would be proud to see their children become.
Mediation does not require attorneys to be present or retained by either parent.
Mediation is available to divorcing and separating couples whether or not they have children. It is also available to extended family members like grandparents who are involved in a family dispute.
Mediation fees are based on my hourly rate and require an Individual session for each party prior to attending.
Mediation sessions are scheduled in blocks of time from 90 minutes to 3 hours in length.
If you would like to learn more about how you can begin therapy, or have any questions please call 415-563-4342 or 510-883-9312, or email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Susan Regan, MFT has offices in Berkeley near El Cerrito and Oakland and in San Francisco, close to the Civic Center and Nob Hill. 415-563-4342 or 510-883-9312.
*Quotes are typical of what clients say, though to protect confidentiality, I have not used names or exact words.